The adoption process is difficult for many reasons. There is a high level of time commitment spent on training, paperwork, and education. The expenses add up quickly, as there are many people involved in getting approval from two countries to bring a child home through international adoption. Each one is important and must be paid to do their work; each child worth the cost. The emotional costs sneak in too – the impact on family members, the realization that one’s life and family is about to change, the overwhelming joy matched by fear as you watch your child led by the hand into the room to be handed to you forever. Titus, who became ours in July 2015, is an absolute joy. We expect to bring home Mei by September 2016. Our family has now spent the last two years on our two back-to-back adoption journeys. The strain has been real, but the blessings have far outweighed the cost.
Aside from our precious children who are themselves the greatest blessings, we have been overwhelmed with the love and partnership we’ve received by the community we’ve found in adoption and adoption fundraising. Our family has been surrounded by support of people eagerly standing beside us to help cover the costs of bringing our children home. Those of you who have stood with us understand that while we can provide a loving home and daily necessities to these children, the cost to bring them home would prevent us from doing so. You have given sacrificially to support our adoptions. You donated items to our garage sales and our auction. You sold personal possessions and donated the proceeds. You bought my paintings, tee shirts, weighted blankets, and sensory bins and commissioned Eric to make furniture, all to help us bring our children home. You brought us dinner, more than once, because you want us to enjoy an easy evening with our family. You gave me a hug when you saw tears in my eyes. You prayed for me when I was down. You’re the stranger who met our family in the post office and gave on the spot. You watched our kids so Eric and I could enjoy an evening out. You educated yourself and your children on differences and special needs so our families can interact well. You love us even when things get a little wild, and then you bring chocolate. Together, you have FULLY FUNDED our fees to bring Mei home! Can I tell you a little bit more about what that means for us?
Being fully funded means we don’t have to have one day’s delay in our process due to getting a payment together. Fully funded means we don’t have add a loan payment while adding a new daughter and new medical expenses. This helps keep our stress levels down, keeping our marriage stronger, our parenting more connected, and our family time more carefree. Being fully funded means I can focus my summer on preparing our home and our family members for Mei. It means I can spend more time schooling our big kids so we can take a longer break when we really need it in the fall. Fully funded means each of my children receives more quality time which builds into them the assurance of our love that they need in this time of transition.
You have taken part in a miracle that we can joyfully share together for life and eternity. “Thank you” is not adequate to express the gratitude toward all who are sharing in this journey with us – friends, family, and strangers alike. We pray God will bless you with joy as you continue to watch this story unfold, and that He will always provide for your needs as you have so generously provided for ours.